Yet another lesson learned

Sometimes in dealing with people you learn about yourself. You learn what you as a person are made of. I've recently been in a situation where I could have reacted one of two ways and I happened to take the high road. I'm very proud of myself in the fact that while I could've chosen to be bitter and vindictive, I've chosen to see the experience as yet another lesson learned and have kept it moving. Am I dissappointed? Sure. Am I surprised? Not for one second. Maybe that has a lot to do with my reaction to said situation. So it is with this new lesson under my belt that I continue to move forward in my quest for companionship if not love. Aren't we all out for a little companionship? I don't think I'm asking for too much really. Onward and upward as they say.

Pot Stirrers aka Shit Starters

How do YOU define a Shit Starter? I've decided that people that NEED to be in the middle of everything are befitting of that wonderful title.  They may have good intentions but I sometimes think it borders on sociopath behavior (too far). Either way, I Ain't Got Time for that (Thank you Sweet Brown) so shit starters, pot stirrers attention: Please GO GET YOUR LIFE!!!! And while you're at it, Please SIT ALL THE WAY DOWN AND PUT A DAMN SEAT BELT ON!!! (Thanks Tamar Braxton)

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Back from the dead

What do you do when someone you imagined was living under a bridge makes a reappearance? While I'm tempted to put the old Color Purple curse on them, but I've instead decided to kinda hope (with a huge bit of pessimism) that he will come around. It's so hard to not be bitter, but when there are children involved ALL bets are off. Oh, I'm taking it to the next level...my kids deserve this. I may not be cursing you, but I'm coming after your ass that's for sure!

It's been a while

It's been a while since I've last posted and boy have a lot of things been going on!  School has started back and it has been a struggle getting motivated on daily basis.  I'm trying not to solely focus on the upcoming breaks as a means to get me through the week :).  The kids are great though, so that is a great comfort. I like them and they like me. I think anyway.  I've been working out like a slave in the gym, going at least 5 times a week.  My peeps think I'm crazy, but I'm doing it to keep myself sane. With all that is happening or rather not happening, it's the only thing I've got. 
After a very short stint on Plenty of Fish, I've given up on the idea of ever dating again.  It's just not for me. Or as the kids say, I'm not about that life right now.  It sucks because I would love to have someone to share my life with again, but it seems like it's just not in the cards for me right now.  I've thought that once my son graduates high school which is a terribly long 5 years away, I could begin to see what's out there, but that seems so far away it's unimaginable. It kinda makes me sad.  My mom even told me that my status updates on Facebook were making me sound desperate. I told her I disagreed and that my friends knew my situation and sympathized with me.  She really seems to think that if I return to my home state Virginia, that my life will be drastically different.  She thinks that the men will come falling out of the sky and the money will just flow like water.  I on the other hand know that to be the complete opposite!  It's as expensive as HELL to live in VA and while the men are properly trained in the ways of Black women (always a good thing), I don't believe the hype. 
I don't really know where my place is, but in reality I can't go anywhere once Daniel is done with high school.  I've got a career with retirement benefits and if I leave so do my years on the job.  No thank you!
So I guess, I can just plan on having "the boy" live with me for the rest of my life and take care of me til I die! Ha ha ha! That sounds so morbid! Times are tough.  Let me go watch my favorite movie SOMETHING NEW and get my relationship woes soothed for an hour and a half.  Romeo, Julio, James where for art thou?

I've found the BEST website EVER

In my search for inspiration and information about health and fitness, I've come across a website called gokaleo.com.  This website is absolutely fabulous! It has great posts that are speaking to the author's experience while at the same time reiterating that every BODY is different. One that works for one may NOT work for everyone.  Her large take home message is: do what feels right for you and your body.  That everything she support just may not work for you., and what you feel that works for you, no one should judge you either
I'm telling you right now..check this out and you will be forever changed! You cannot blame me for the changes you'll make, but you will be so glad that you didn't listen to me.  Ever heard of Pinterest? Well, her site is like Pinterest for fitness and nutrition. 

AND if you think that's inspirational? Wait til you click on this link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziSQHEmWR6k&feature=youtube_gdata_player
You wanna talk about inspirational!? Every time I'm at the gym and feel like quitting I think of this awesome woman! She is truly an inspiration and I only hope to be one half as sassy and FIT as she is! I love her.

Made him an offer he couldn't refuse

Today I went to dinner with my daughter's boyfriend tonight. He was the most nervous person  in the world tonight. When I picked him up, I told him that I had my knives at the ready if he got out of hand. Enter nervous laughter. I took him to Culver's for burgers and frozen custard where I learned all I wanted about him. And even though he's got gauges (which he sort if regrets) he is a VERY nice boy. I knew he was nice so I wasn't surprised that we spoke so freely and candidly. I'm hoping that he learned a bit about me too in the process. My daughter is no fool, as she was not raised by one!